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How To Kiss Her For The First Time – Three Tips

February 13th, 2011

Your first kiss at the start of a new relationship is often a very anxious time. It can be very awkward, especially for those who haven’t dated in a while.

You’ve got good reason to be nervous when kissing her for the first time. The first kiss is for some women, a way of sensing chemistry and compatibility.

The way that you initiate that kiss is as critical as the execution of the kiss itself. There are a number of complex cues that women sense either consciously or unconsciously.

Know that the first kiss is very important and is not merely something to get out of the way. Listed here are 3 tips about doing it the right way.

1.) Never ask for her permission.

You can’t just grab her and start kissing because you’re feeling aroused. Instead you must gauge when the moment is right. If there is sexual tension between both of you and she is showing signs of attraction for you, then seize the moment and kiss her.

Trying to get permission diminishes the chemistry or “spark” of the kiss. You will appear indecisive and weak. Women expect to be swept off their feet by a confident and strong man. You must take charge of the moment.

2.) Women signal their attraction to a man in a number of ways.

Do you find that she is touching you in casual ways during conversation? Maybe she might find excuses for holding on to you such as when she is walking on slippery snow and uses you for support. She may have brushed her arm or hand up against yours.

Pay attention to her eye contact. A dead give away are the quick glances she gives you when she thinks you aren’t looking. When you are talking, does she give you prolonged eye contact?

Do her eyes seem to take in the different parts of your face? If her eyes stare intently at your lips, she definitely finds you arousing. Does she lean in closely to you a lot?

Is she somewhat nervous in your presence? This is a good sign. She may even play with her hair when talking with you. Dilated pupils are also a very good sign.

3.) Begin kissing her very slowly.

Take her hand, lean in and gaze at her lips and her mouth. If she doesn’t resist or pull away, gently kiss her. Try playing with her hair gently or cradling her face with your hands before you kiss.

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Prevent Your Relationship From Breaking Up In 4 Steps

February 11th, 2011

Do you have a sneaky feeling that your boyfriend may dump you? There are ways to put some brakes on the rough ride of a breakup. Love is worth preserving, it may be hard at times, but it will be worth it.

Talk a little, listen a lot – open communication is an important first step. Stay in control, don’t say anything you’ll regret later, but express clearly how you feel. It’s important that you give him a chance to make his point and listen, too. Many breakups can be avoided by listening to the story from the other side. It’s foolish not to expect that your boyfriend will look at things a little differently than you do. You each must build bridges to overcome the gaps in your feelings. An open mind is a gift, use it, work out a plan to help each other in the relationship.

Whatever effort your boyfriend may take to enrich the relationship, give him encouragement and support. Remember, men feel good about a relationship in which they know someone is backing them up. If there is something that your boyfriend really likes to do, get involved, that will go a long way to preventing a breakup. You don’t have to be gung-ho, you don’t have to get greasy, but if your boyfriend likes sports or working on cars, making an effort to gain interest will go a long way to prevent a breakup. You may not like sports, but figure out a way to get involved that pleases him. If he’s feeling a little blue, touch him in an affectionate way and encourage him to talk about it. Push your boyfriend to realize his dreams, help him in his efforts as much as you can. Be with your boyfriend in mind and spirit, through good times and bad.

As a third phase, look at yourself, build yourself up, improve in ways that you want to. That will make you more desirable to him. Is something pulling you away from the relationship? Have you become a haggard worry wart? Becoming a person who doesn’t seem to enjoy time with your boyfriend is a good cause for a breakup. Take a look at yourself, fix what has become broken. You don’t want to turn yourself into a stranger, just a better version of yourself. Spruce up your wardrobe, quit a bad habit or something he finds annoying. If you find something to make you happy, those around you will become happy, too. But your boyfriend a present for no reason. Go shopping. Read a best-seller. Cheerful, happy people are easy to love, happiness is a great way to keep from having a breakup.

A last bit of assurance for a steady relationship is to spend a lot of quality time with your significant other. Making time for just the two of you, doing something you really enjoy, is quality time. Times like this can strengthen a relationship, bring two people closer together. It’s fun to have a “date night” every week. And a long weekend away together is always a special thing. Develop an interest or hobby that is special to both of you. Don’t forget that sharing a “roundup” of the day is a way to bring you closer. Time together is like a cement to strengthen your relationship.

Following these tips will go a long way toward preventing a breakup. Human beings are not perfect, so you must take the time and a consistent effort to build a human relationship. Willingness to do your part, maybe a little more, is most important in preventing a relationship from breaking up.

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Is It Possible To Pick Up Women In Clubs

February 5th, 2011

Here is why clubs are the best place to practice meeting women and the worst place to actually get results with women.

When men decide that they want to meet some women, what do they do? They head out to clubs and start approaching women there. Little do they know what kind of environment are they dealing with. I will break some myths you have about approaching women in clubs.

Why are clubs so good for meeting women? Well, they are only good because they have a lot of women, a lot of drunk people, and loud music. In fact, it would be better without the music. You can really become a more confident and social person if you go to clubs to practice meeting people. No doubt about this. However, it is strongly advisable that you don’t drink any alcohol. If you approach tons of women while being drunk, it will have no effect later. When you wake up sober, it won’t matter what you did the night before if you were drunk. The courage you did while drunk won’t improve your personality. Doing all that approaching sober will.

If you do this, you will improve greatly. You will notice that your social skills will get better with time. You will notice that you are more courageous and confident.

Clubs are not a place where you want to go if you plan on getting laid. There is a small chance that you’ll get laid in clubs. They are designed in a way that prevents you from actually having any results with women. I know too many guys who have wasted years on approaching women in clubs and gotten only one sexual experience. Is that worth it? Women are conditioned to reject guys in clubs.

You shouldn’t take clubs too seriously. Use them for practice and nothing else.

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How to Know if a Girl Likes You

December 12th, 2010

To find out whether a girl likes you or not can be a tough ask after all the laws of attraction are not well known to all men. How to know if a girl likes you is something that bothers all men alike especially the shy and timid types who just have never tried to find out the answer themselves.

The way a girl comes closer to you is something that reveals her intentions clearly. She will often pass by you and look into your eyes as she goes right past you. These are clear signs of her hidden feelings. If a girl likes you she shall do this quite often. You must not get embarrassed with all this thinking that she is a girl and what with the butterflies in your stomach.

You can try the opposite as well, approach her directly and get her to chat with you. If she does this fast and in a mild and clam manner with a laid back attitude then you know for sure if a girl likes you. She will talk to you likes this even in front of all your friends just so that she can get accepted by them too.

Another way is on how to know if a girl likes you is through conversation. The girl will surely talk to you in a mellow and sweet manner. She will also tell nice words and positive things about the way you walk, your posture, the way you wear clothes and the like.

These methods are at your disposal so get started and use them on the girls that you find interest in to see if a girl likes you. If that is the case then it is great news for you. However it is not going to happen on its own, you are going to have to get this reaction out of the girl and once it has come out in the open then the ball is in your court.

Hang on to these teachings and get out there, start applying them, and get the girl you like to like you back.

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Why Feminine Men Attract Tons Of Women

November 25th, 2010

From when we were babies to hitherto social pressures have forced us into the role of being a man.

We were discouraged to act feminine. It’s part of being socialized.

This was dinned into us by our mother and father; by books we read and TV shows we watched; and by our teachers in school.

Let’s look at an example.

I want you to do something educational: schlep over to a toy store.

You’ll notice that most toys aren’t for boys and girls.

In the boys section you’ll find G.I. Joes, Transformers, and Thomas the Train.

In the girl’s section you’ll find Barbie dolls and Dora the Explorer.

Moreover, these toys are more than playthings. They are heuristic tools for teaching children how to be a man or a woman.

If a boy is caught brushing a Brat doll’s hair, his friends will most likely make fun of him and call him a girl.

If his parents catch him, they may punish him. That’s because they fear he won’t be properly inculcated into the role of a man.

As a result, most boys grow up to become men fearful of acting like a woman.

There’s nothing wrong with this except that some of the best seducers have developed their feminine side. These men are called “Dandies.”

They oscillate between the role of a man and a woman.

In fact, their seductive power lies in that they cannot be categorized as masculine or feminine.

When a person cannot be categorized, they entrance others. We are attracted to those who entrance us.

The famous psychiatrist Dr. Freud famously said that people are bisexual. According to him, all of us are attracted to both males and females.

But but being stigmatized prevents most of us from acting on these urges.

Women are attracted to the Dandy because he is a woman inside a man’s body.

Dandies are notoriously insolent: they have very little need to please people – especially women. This is another facet of their allure.

To become a Dandy, train yourself to be attentive to detail, relinquish your need to please others, and develop your feminine side.

I want to leave you with a quote from Pablo Picasso: “I am a woman. Every artist is a woman and should have a taste for other women. Artists who are homosexual cannot be true artists because they like men, and since they themselves are women they are reverting to normality.”

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Seductive Body Language

November 11th, 2010

In a bar somewhere on planet earth, Jake – a tall, good looking man – spots Jessica – a cute little blonde. After a few minutes of chitchat, they start kissing. After a few minutes of kissing, they leave the bar and head straight for Jake’s bedroom.

Imagine a planet exactly like planet earth. It has exact replicas of everything on planet earth – the same bars, restaurants, political leaders… and so on. Just like on planet earth, H20 is water. The exact same events that happen on earth happen on this planet. There’s even a twin earth Jake approaching a twin earth Susan.

So far, so good.

However, one event on twin earth unfolds a little differently than it does on earth: twin earth Jessica slaps twin earth Jake across the face.

That’s because earth Jake and twin earth Jake have one major difference: their body language.

While earth Jake held strong eye contact, twin earth Jake’s eyes were shifting around like two pinballs.

While chatting to earth Susan, earth Jake leaned back. Alas, twin earth Jake leaned in while chatting to his girl. This made him come across as a desperate puppy dog.

When earth Jessica asked earth Jake an uncomfortable question, his body language was nonreactive. When twin earth Jessica asked twin earth Jake an uncomfortable question, he started twitching.

When talking to female strangers is your body language more like earth Jake or twin earth Jake? If it’s more like twin earth Jake, your body language is severely crippling your potential success with women. If that’s the case, I want you to do the following exercises.

1) Practice holding a steady gaze when talking to women: this will make you come across a lot more dominant and attractive to the opposite sex.

2) Practice leaning back when interacting with females: too many guys lean in when talking to girls in noisy places because they worry that the women won’t hear them. Don’t do this. It comes across as needy. When you lean back it forces the woman to lean into you. When she leans into you, you become the Prize she wants to win over.

3) If a woman makes fun of you, be nonreactive: women test men by asking them embarrassing questions to see if they’ll feel uncomfortable. If the man squirms around, she knows she’s dealing with a weak man and ceases to feel any attraction for him. Don’t do this. Instead, train yourself to be nonreactive. As a result, women will know they’re dealing with a real man.

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